Day 104

The Chap took a day off today and we went to a local kids farm as a family.

We fed lambs, stroked and touched horses, donkeys, cows and sheep and even held chicks and bunnies. It was magical!

Came home and pottered about a bit. About six I went to the loo and thought "I'll test, you never know!" I swear to god I thought I saw a faintest of faint line. I came down and told himself. He looked after our daughter whilst I went to Tesco & bought a test (actually I bought 4 but doesn't need to know that).

Of course it was negative and now I feel an idiot. I won't say anything if it happens again until I've had 17 positive tests. 

For fucks sake!

Day 101- 28/6

So it's been over 100 days since I started writing this. I'm obviously still not pregnant and still not had a period. Not looking good is it?

I am really not happy today. I feel so low. Not about being barren still, but I return to work early August. I've spent the last few days booking settling in sessions at nursery. It really feels that these last precious few weeks will be spent getting my daughter ready to leave me and not holding her closer to me.  It feels wrong.

I also had a fright as I suddenly realised that I have to pay £900 in nursery fees before I get my first full paycheque. I have no clue where that money will come from. I've got £200 left in my savings and a credit card. I could liquidate some long term savings. I suppose there is no alternative. It's upset me dreadfully.

I'm feeling sorry for myself too. Jealous is the only word for it. Jealousy is a terrible thing and I'm also ashamed for feeling like this. I'm struggling now to make ends meet. I need to buy the stairgates but I don't have the money. I want a new bigger car and to move house and to stop working. I also want to book a holiday and set a date for us to get married. I can't do any of these things without money and my fiancé won't arrange any stuff like that. It gets sorted because I insist and then have the funds to make it happen. 

So im feeling sorry for myself even though we are all healthy and my daughter is beautiful and I am loved. 

I'm selfish and jealous and skint, and barren.

Lucky fucking me.

Fingers crossed. 

Day 45-3/5/16

Still no period.

Breast feeding has obviously screwed everything up. I did have a moment of hope Saturday morning when I realised my CM was like egg whites. A sure sign ovulation is close at hand.

Unfortunately, a 6M old baby with a stinking head cold put paid to any horizontal shenanigans over the bank holiday weekend. 

I've got a meeting Thursday lunchtime where I'm going to ask for part time hours.  Pretty stressed about that.

Wanting a child, is such a terrible longing and yet when you already have a baby it's like society says you are not allowed to bemoan your lack of conception. It's greedy apparently.

Sod it, I'm feeling sorry for myself tonight.

Fingers crossed 

X

Day 26- 14/4/16

So still no period. I haven't bothered testing again as I had three negatives after I was due. I know I'm not pregnant.

It's irritating as im sure this is all down to breastfeeding that my cycle is so messed up.

Fingers crossed 

Day 20 - 8/4/16

So I'm currently 8 days late and still getting negative tests. 

I really don't think I'm pregnant. I'm getting a lot of period type signs - bloating, aching feeling, minor cramping etc.

I would, however, like to get my period so I can properly start tracking again. 

I'm guessing this uncertainty and irregularity is because I'm breastfeeding. 

Sigh.

It's hard sometimes.

Fingers crossed. 

Day13-1/4/16

Apt day today - day 13.

I finally went out and got a pregnancy test. Big fat negative.

I wasn't surprised, but I am disappointed,  even after my recent concerns.

In other news £6.50 for 1 test in Tesco! I can't have that, especially if I intend to obsessively test like last time. So I hopped online to eBay and picked up 30 basic tests for under £3 incl p&p.

Should have guessed I wasn't pregnant as I spent a lot of the morning in tears worrying about money. A sure sign I'm emotional and due to get my period. 

Maybe next month.

Fingers crossed.

X

Day 11- 30/03/2016

Last week I came down with a horrible bug. I was vomiting and had crippling diarrhoea. 

It is the first day since my beautiful daughter was born that I struggled. I found looking after a baby when so poorly really hard. My fiancé was at work and my family on holiday. There was nothing to do but endure. 

The result is that I got really worried about the practical implications of a second baby. I had a cry to be honest.

Today I finally had my appointment at hospital with the bum nurse. I'm sure she has a very high brow sounding title. The reality is she is a nurse specialising in bums. I had to have two particularly unpleasant tests. The result was I'm fine after giving birth, but the advice is if I do get pregnant again then it would be best to have a cesarian section rather than risk another vaginal birth due to the damage I have. 

I'm currently 10dpo (10 days past ovulation) and planning on testing this weekend.

Fingers crossed.

Day 5- 24/3/16

I'm currently at deaths door with a sickness and diarrhoea bug.

However, my little daughter doesn't know that and wants to be entertained in between dashes to the loo.

Normal service will be resumed shortly.

Fingers Crossed!

Day 3- 22/3/16

I've been trying to find out the answer to a question I have. Buggered if I can get a straight answer from anyone.

Can I take folic acid if I'm breastfeeding?

I've started taking it, as a couple of websites have said its okay. I don't generally like to use "the internet said its fine" as an answer but even a healthcare professional pointed me in the direction of "the breastfeeding network"

Yes, I'm greedy. I do already have a child. If you hadn't got that from the blog's title then, well you're a dumbass!

My DD (dear daughter stupid  trying to

conceive acronyms) is 5 months old.

After spending my entire adult life trying not to get pregnant it comes as somewhat of a shock to find out you're barren.

Of course, I am not barren. I've got a daughter. But when, after extensive tests, I was told I had barely any eggs left. The word barren flashes in your head.

My beautiful daughter is a miracle, conceived just prior to starting IVF.

I would love to have the luxury of time. However, I have Mother Nature at my ear and so I need to start trying now. Hoping there is at least one good egg left and I may soon be blessed again.

Fingers Crossed

Day 2. 21/5/2016

So I'm not feeling pregnant yet.

Not really surprising I suppose.

I suspect you are a little bit curious about me. I am not expecting this to be an easy journey as I am 39 years old, due to turn 40 in April. I have a very low egg count, so that's shitty.

I AM taking my folic acid, and I plan start tracking my ovulation after my next period.

I don't really think I will be lucky and get pregnant, but I know that I will spend the rest of my life regretting it if at least we don't try.

Curious face of the day it is actually my fiancé who was the incentive for us to start trying.

So fingers crossed.

Day 1- the start of a journey.

Day 1
I'm calling today day 1. It's not the first day of my period, but I'm thinking of today as day 1 as this week I stopped taking the pill.
My fiancé and I agreed it was time to start trying for a baby and my current pill pack finished on Monday. So that's it. I. Am officially trying for a baby.
With this in mind, I pulled out the big guns and shaved my legs yesterday morning.
I then stripped off pyjamas and socks (oh I know to live it up) and seduced him this morning.
According to my tracker, I should be fertile about now.
So now we wait.
It's unlikely I'll get pregnant straight away. In all honesty the though of the tww (two week wait) fills me with dread.
It's so very easy to get obsessed with baby making.